The Key To Great Relationships

The Key To Great Relationships Require The Following Things.......

Great relationships require you to prove your commitment and respect.
 It is important that you and your companion are on the same plane, it is vital that you prove to each other that you both are committed to the relationship and to each other, in addition to having a mutual level of respect for each other and for the relationship.
Great relationships require you to want the best for the other person. Often times in a relationship individuals will thrive at different times and on different levels. Each companion must support the other regardless of what level he or she is on. Success can tear a couple apart if the proper support is not in place. Jealousy and envy can set in even with your companion. Success as the same ability to negatively or positively effect a relationship just as much as failure can.
Great relationships require you to be actively engaged in something positive. It is not idealistic, realistic, and or healthy to sit around and do nothing, hoping and wishing for something great to happen. You must be active and moving, working toward making that wish and or dream come true. "The anointing hits moving targets and Faith without work is dead." It is important that each of you and active in achieving your personal and collective goals.
Great relationships require sacrifice. Every relationship will have struggle and strife. You can't mind getting dirty. You must both be ready to roll up your sleeves and get to the root of the problem. You have to be willing to sacrifice for something new and better than anything you have known before. If you want something new you have to be willing to do something different. The price you are willing to pay for something reveals its value to you.

These are just a few things required to works towards the making of a great relationship. Communication is also important as well. Keeping the lines of communication open at all times is key. With communication must also come respect. In some way shape or form they all intertwine with each other. It is vital to have balance within a relationship on an individual and collective level. Time is key. Take the time to get to know each other. Make sure that you are evenly yoked and prepared and capable of taking the journey together. Love is sacrifice, but love is beautiful, committed, honest, non-judgmental, kind, and most of all forgiving.
 Live in love and your relationship will be great!!
Peace and Blessings!!

The Fear Of Fighting!! The Journey Of A Survivor!

Some of the biggest battles we will ever fight in our lifetime will be the battles of others. We will find ourselves fighting for those who cannot fight for themselves, for those who cannot fight the battle alone, for our loved ones, and even for perfect strangers. The choice is ours.

Recently my aunt lost her right breast in the battle to fight Breast Cancer. She is soon to start radiation and as of today she is CANCER FREE. My aunt is an amazing WOMAN and has embraced this situation with acceptance, love, and faith. She has become stronger spiritually, emotionally, and physically while learning and experiencing the truest form of faith and GOD'S WILL.

It is ok to be weak and fragile. It is ok to feel fear and anger. But, what is not ok is to settle in those emotions. What we must do is recognize these feelings and understand that the focus is not on the emotions themselves, but how we can move past them. We must acknowledge the emotion and the truth within it and once we do that, we find acceptance. Once we find acceptance, we find PEACE and we experience FREEDOM.

If you recall in my previous entry, I spoke about FREEDOM and what it means to truly be FREE. Well FREEDOM also requires consistent and repeated acts of courage. Trust and believe it takes a courageous person to battle CANCER. It takes a courageous person to GIVE EVERYTHING TO GOD and allow HIM TO DO HIS WORK. But most importantly, it takes a courageous person to BE STILL AND KNOW THAT HE IS GOD.

Life is an endless journey of self-awareness and growth. We must be open to the possibilities  and realities of change because change is inevitable. It is the one thing WE FEAR and the one thing that keeps us IN BONDAGE.

Once my aunt accepted the truth and reality of her diagnosis with Breast Cancer, SHE NO LONGER LIVED IN FEAR. She embraced the journey and GAVE IT ALL TO GOD.

The message at the end of the day is this.........
WHATEVER YOU CANNOT DO GOD WILL DO FOR YOU!! JUST BELIEVE AND MOVE IN FAITH.

Peace and Freedom.... A Soulful Journey

Life can take us in many different directions. Often times life appears loud and unruly, confusing and consuming, and even exhausting. But, we must somehow find a way to keep fighting and moving forward because life isn't going to stop just because we cant seem to keep up.

I've been away from my blog for quite some time because life was definitely kicking my ass, but I rode the hell out of it. I made the choice to accept the truth of everything that was going on around me, whether I liked it or not. There was a sense of freedom that was missing and I couldn't figure it out until now. I didn't understand what true FREEDOM was. Unfortunately, we live in a world where everything is fast and definitely in the palm of our hands (smart phones, Ipads, tablets, etc.) and because of this we  as individuals have become complacent. We believe that we will find happiness and fulfillment through social networks and superficial entities. We HIDE FROM OUR TRUTHS! We FEAR THE UNKNOWN and WE FIGHT AGAINST THE UNCONTROLLABLE, THE UNDENIABLE, AND INEVITABLE!

It is time to LET GO!!!

FREEDOM is the knowing and embracing of truth to the degree that you are able to cooperate with the flow of GOD within your being.

FREEDOM is A STATE OF MIND

FREEDOM IS THE ABSENCE OF FEAR. Those who know their oneness with GOD have NO FEARS!!

We must free ourselves of all worry, doubt, and fear. We as individuals must become aware of our triggers (the things that may upset, uncomfortable, and even fearful). Once we gain better self-awareness, we make better decisions. We no longer continue to live a life of guilt, shame, and fear based on the decisions and choices that we have made. Once we individually recognize and accept the truth from within, the choices that we make from that point on will
influence and direct the fulfillment of our true inner beings.

PEACE AND BLESSINGS ALL!!!

THE POWER OF DISTRACTIONS

SIX more weeks and counting!!! I am soooo excited and definitely counting down the weeks before I complete my program. This GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENT is one of the few things that keep me focused when life's distractions seem to get in the way of me chasing my goals and dreams. I was reading The Daily LOve, an inspirirational blog that I follow and the blog for the day was mind blowing. It really helped me to look at things from another perspective. A perspective that forces me to truly look at the distractions I have and how much they are greatly slowing me down. It really just made me slow down and gather my thoughts on some unhealthy habits that I have. Habits that I didnt realize was effecting me that bad. Just some things that are a part of my everyday life. Even down to some of my coping skills. Just like my last blog stated, LIFE IS ALL ABOUT CHOICES. We can't always pick and choose exactly which storm we may want to endure, but we do have the power of is how we let that storm affect us, how we choose to weather through. Do we grab our umbrella and keep walking until we see sunshine? There are various answers to that one question, it just depends on the individual who is answering. The importance of this blog is stress the importance of NOT ALLOWING YOUR DISTRACTIONS TO DISTRACT YOU!! Sounds crazy, but when you think about it, it makes total sense!!!!
PEACE AND BLESSINGS FRIENDS!!

Faith's True Ability

I'm seven weeks away from completing my internship. This has definitely been a long, hard fought road, but worth every bump and bruise that I have received along the way. I have grown in so many ways. I have learned alot about myself, those around me, but most importantly I have gained incredible knowledge with regard to my mom and her current battle with mental illness. I have been able to educate my family, myself, my mother, and those around me. I have learned that life is about the choices we make. Not every choice will be the right one, but we still have the ability to choose how we let that choice effect us. Life is a constant battle, filled with  failed attempts and triumphs, but our level of resiliency is what keeps us going. Our innate ability to recover, pick ourselves back up, dust the dirt off and keep moving forward. We are much stronger than we dare to believe, but we must remember GOD IS NEVER GOING TO GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN BARE!!! We have to stand strong in that belief and know that within our heart. We have to live that belief, breath it as if our life depended on it because in actuallity it does! Our life truly depends on the level of our faith. It is our faith in that there is better, and that everyday is a new day to make a difference. It is our faith in the GREATER GOOD that impels us to be good people regardless of the ASSHOLES we may face on a daily basis. Well let me stop rambling because I could definitely go on and on!! Peace and Blessings ALL!!!

A DIFFERENT PLACE

Hey All!! Of course you all know that it has been extremely chaotic over the past few months, but things have definitely began to settle.My mom is still in the hospital, but she seems to not be as resistant as she was when she first entered. Hopefully she will remain this way and continue to receive the treatment that she is being provided. I am in a different place these days. I am much more focused and ready to make a lot of personal changes. My motivation has definitely been shifted and my life changed in a major way. It is amazing how one event can have such a profound affect on your life. Things are actually coming together and I am happy.I am in the final stage of my Master's program, which is the internship. I am definitely excited because as of June 2013, I will have a MS in Counseling in Marriage and Family Therapy. It amazes me sometimes when I think back on how I initially entered into this program in September of 2010. Look at me now, I am on my way to bigger and better things. I will definitely be keeping you all posted on what's going on. PEACE AND BLESSINGS ALL!!

A Bit of Chaos

Hey people it's been a while since I last posted. There has definitely been alot going on over the past few months. I am at the end of my program and preparing to start my practicuum. I am so excited. Time has flown by extremely fast. Life has seemed to be moving much faster. The health and well-being of my mom has taken a swift turn and changed the lives of family members. I love my mom with everything in my heart and soul, but the last few months have been the toughest that I have had to endure. Things had been going well since her return home this past June, but things swiftly took a turn for the chaotic over the course of a few weeks. My mom had in fact come out of her battle with the depression for the past five years. She was on the right track to getting better, or so we all thought. My mom had gone from depression to mania, and soon after I watched my mom's world quickly fall apart. I also watched her behavior and actions change the lives of those closest to her as well. It is amazing at how mental health can change and take over a persons' entire life. It seems as if everything that I was working hard to avoid happened anyway. I never imagined that this would be happening to my family.

Surprisingly, with all of the knowledge that I have acquired I still feel as if I am unable to help my mom. My heart goes out to her everyday. To see my mom transition from where she once was to where she is now is very heartbreaking. I have so many unanswered questions, but I know that whatever GOD wants me to know HE will reveal to me when the time is right.